It's Not Just An Inability to Move On
I'm starting to realize that when people end a relationship, some move on quickly because they never truly gave themselves completely to the other person. These individuals never invested 100% of themselves in the relationship and instead kept certain aspects of their lives separate. On the other hand, people who were fully invested in the relationship have a much harder time moving on, including myself. We are the ones who give our all in a relationship, always putting the other person first, but never really prioritizing our own happiness. When the other person moves on quickly, it's because they were never really in the relationship for the right reasons. They simply loved the love we showed them and what we could do for them in the context of their separate priorities. In my past relationship, my constant praise for my significant other made me feel incompetent and a disappointment to them, all this because I praised her so much, more than anyone else in this world. We have a hard time moving on because we never really want to let them go because we fear letting them go completely. It's really not our inability to move on but our actual true emotions, our pure love, which holds us back, the pain which is left behind is all that we are left with, their memories, our desire to love them more. All these things hold us back.
