How Long Does It Take To Recover From Breakup

According to studies, most people start to feel better around three months after a breakup. One study found that 71% of people who'd gone through a recent breakup felt better after about three months. 

Another survey of some 2,000 people in 2017 put the number at six months. 

However, it can take anywhere from six weeks to three months to forever, depending on: 

• How intense the relationship was
• How invested you were in each other
• How heartbroken you are

The process can be smoother and shorter if you: 

• Consciously try not to indulge in negative emotions
• Spend time working on yourself
• Keep in mind that this sadness is temporary and you will get through it

No Fixed Time 

So, as mentioned, there is no exact time defined to recover from a breakup, but there are approximations based on studies and data that can be considered to make a rough idea about yourself. In addition to that, we have to be more aware of our contributions in our relationship, as every relationship is unique and requires a different amount of time to recover after it's gone. Basically there are major factors which affect the healing time, but further we will be talking about only one of these kinds - moving on after a relationship in which you were seriously invested

Here are predictions of efforts to calcuate recovery time after breakup

Online Polls

It's healthy to keep in mind that this was the result of a consumer poll and not a scientific study.

The poll result suggests it takes an average of about 3.5 months to heal, while recovering after divorce might take closer to 1.5 years, if not longer.

Scientific Research

In one 2007 study, researchers surveyed college students who'd gone through a breakup within the past 6 months.

After the breakup, many participants reported increased positive emotions - including empowerment, confidence and happiness.

Since the breakup happened an average of 11 weeks before the study, these findings seem to imply many people recover after about 11 weeks. This timeframe only offers an average though.

Basically it can take nearly 6 months to see improvements as the study was conducted on students who had their breakup just 6 months ago.

Another 2007 study shows the distress after a breakup declined steadily over several weeks. Just as they predicted, by the 10-week mark, they felt better. 

It depends on lot of factors : 

1. Your commitment : You will have a harder time moving on if you were more invested in that relationship like fully committed, as you have seen and planned so much future with them and also your life revolves around them. So after the breakup you will have a hard time figuring out your individual self. But if you had been less invested in your relationship it will be easier for you to move on as you have known that there is no future and you were just enjoying the process. 
2. Infidelity : If you have been cheated on in the relationship you will have a hard time moving on as you have to process 2-3 things at the same time like your breakup, the grief, the loss, and also the feeling of betrayal. Also it will be affecting for you if you have seen your partner with someone else after the breakup or at the time of the breakup. You will develop so much self-doubt and it will affect your self-esteem and confidence 
3. Relationship quality :  A lot depends on the relationship quality. If you have been in a very good kind of relationship it will take you more time to move on and process your thoughts. On the other hand, if you have been in a relationship in which you had a lot of fights and it was a little bit toxic, you will feel more relieved after your relationship has ended. After all, if you feel your relationship was normal and you could have managed things and things were manageable, then also it will be tough for you to manage your emotions.
4. Who ends the relationship ? : At last, who ends the relationship matters a lot. The first person to end the relationship and steps away feels less distressed and feels it's easier to move on, while the one who has been abandoned feels a lot harder. 

 

What you can do to make the recovery process more easier and faster : 

It has been seen that putting all the blame on yourself or your ex doesn't help much to move on. Well, it has been seen that putting all the blame on your ex and seeing them as a negative person helps you move on faster, but it increases the distress. It's better if we keep a shared perspective.

What you can do more:

1. Remember it's okay to grieve: Accepting the loss of a relationship and the accompanying painful emotions is crucial for healing after heartbreak. While it may be tempting to bury these feelings and pretend everything is fine, this approach won’t help you process them. By acknowledging your distress, you can start to release it. Initially, it may be uncomfortable to sit with your sadness, betrayal, anger, and despair, but practicing mindfulness meditation and similar techniques can aid in recognizing and accepting these emotions.
2. Focus on self-care.
3. Keep your distance: The more you will be not involved in activities which include your ex, the more you will get healed. Don't meet them, don't talk to them, don't see their pictures, don't call them, resist your urges to connect with them.

How to know you are ' over it '

• You can think back to the good times you had together without pain.
• You no longer avoid shared activities or favorite restaurants.
• You feel whole and complete as your own person.
• It doesn’t hurt to think about them.
• You feel ready to try dating again and open up to someone new.